Friends and Enemy Quotes by Bangambiki Habyarimana Quotes

FRIENDS VS ENEMIES

1526. Friend: A potential enemy with whom relations have not yet deteriorated to all-out war

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1527. Enemy: A friend whose mask has fallen

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1528. If somebody suddenly begins to call you "friend" he wants something from you

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1529. You will know a friendship is not natural when you don't feel relaxed with it.

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1530. “You may think you are your best friend, but at times you may be your worst enemy”

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Most of the time we consider ourselves our best friends, but experience shows that in an over zeal to do good to ourselves we end up harming ourselves. Overeating, overdrinking, the drugs we take to sooth our nerves, etc. And when the going gets tough, we want to rest and some of us say, why not take an eternal leave. If you thought you were your best friend think again and work to truly become your best friend

1531. When someone calls you "brother" and "friend" it's because you are a potential competitor or enemy

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1532. If you look for evil in people you will not have friends

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Don’t look for evil in people. We are all naturally evil and naturally good. If you look for evil in people you will certainly find it, and you will have a distorted view that you are the only good person on earth, which is not true because it’s easy to find evil in other people but when we try to find it in ourselves, it becomes invisible

1533. A bad friend is is worse than an enemy, an enemy you can see and avoid, but to detect an insincere friend is hard

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1534. “Don't tell your friend you are fighting with your wife, he will use your weakness against you”

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Don’t reveal your weakness to your enemy. No sensible person will reveal his weak spots to his opponent but an enemies are good at hiding their intentions and don’t readily declare themselves many times they pose as friends. True friendship is hard to discern and you are better off if you keep your cards close to your chest. Never confess your weaknesses to anybody. Weaknesses are entry points to your protected citadel. Even your “friend” will take advantage of your weaknesses once he discovers them to break into your life and control you. He will the information you provided to “help “you.

There was a neighbor in my town whose name was John; he had a “friend”, Andrew with whom he did business and socialized. John and Andrew would help each other in their businesses, were leaders in the same church and shared their successes and defeats. John had special business skills that enabled him to develop his business and became a reference in the town. Suppliers trusted him and his customers loved him. As he grew in wealth and influence, his church elevated him to higher positions. John remained humble and friendly with everybody. His ties with his friend grew as ever before but Andrew trailed behind him in performance. As he continued to grow in power and influence, men and women approached him to ask advice to him on how they could succeed themselves. Others envied his success and invented rumors that his was engaged in extramarital relations. His wife got wind of the rumors and without weighing them unleashed anger and retribution against him. He knew he was innocent and was anguished at the behavior of his wife. She threatened to divorce him. In the meantime she endeavored to make his life hell on earth. He had to rely on the support of his friends to think clearly about what would be the next course of action.

He visited his friend and told him everything that was going on in his household. Andrew sympathized with him and said his wife had no reason to distrust him and that everybody considered her a woman of evil character.

“You can do nothing, you can’t prove anything. You are clean like snow. If she insist in her follies let her go. You are young and there are no shortages of young women to make your life happy”, Andrew advised.

This advice emboldened John and made him even more hardline against his wife. Whenever his wife brought up the matter of his supposed infidelity he would lose his temper and threaten her “I can no longer take your insinuations. If you are tired with me, the door is open; you are not the only woman on earth.”

As the days went by, the situation became intolerable and they divorced. Stressed and unable to run his business alone, John fell into alcoholism. Later he sold his business to his “friend” who had a much larger family and manpower to run it. The church discharged him of his functions on bad conduct. He spent all his money on alcohol and when he was left with nothing to live on he went and asked for employment to his friend, he is now an employee in his own former business. And his “friend “is his boss.

If you think other people are going to solve your problems, you better solve them yourself or at least shut up. Everybody is busy solving their own problems.

1535. What is important is not to fight, but to fight the right enemy

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1536. It's useless to hold a grudge against anyone. The time is coming when you, your grudges and your enemies will all become history

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1537. “There is no pleasure in fighting a weak opponent”

― Bangambiki Habyarimana, Cecil the Lion's Testament

1538. If someone tells you are "family" it's because you are not.

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1539. Don't trust somebody to the point of giving him the key to your most guarded treasure; don’t hand power to a man and expect him to return the favor easily. History is full of men who cut the hands of those who fed them.

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1540. Forgive your enemies but don't forget why they were your enemies.

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